"If you are aged 30 to 45 the question is "is life working out as you planned"?"
Well, I guess I never really had any "plans" as such, other than to be happy.
I was my parents first child and my sister followed 4 years later. My dad was (still is) a very successful restauranteur and we had a very comfortable life. My sister passed away, aged 3, and things kind of went downhill from there. My other sister was born two years later but my parents divorced when she was 2.
I went with my mum and we lived in with my nan. All three of us (Mum, me and sister) had to sleep in one bed for over a year, living off benefits. Mum remarried and we moved in with him. He & I never saw eye to eye and there was plenty of conflict. Being an ex boxer, I never really stood much of a chance. I left home at 18.
I spent the next few years living in a bedsit, barely able to afford to eat or clothe myself, but held down a half decent job as an assistant manager in the Co-Op. I then went to work for Argos and things began to look up financially. I met my wife there too.
I was married by 22, divorced by 31. It wasn't a bad marriage until she decided to screw around ! My career jumped all over the place (retail manager, Video store manager, Business IT Consultant). After the divorce, I ended up racking up all sorts of debt, doing the things I couldn't when I was married
I met Jackie soon after my divorce and had some more crap jobs (door to door insurance sales, more retail, BT Directories) but I am now a Trainer for a software house. I love the job and am successful at it. My daughter was born in 2004 followed by my son in 2005. I love Jackie and the kids to bits and couldn't be any happier than I am right now. I am still carrying the large debt burden from my earlier, more reckless years which restricts me doing pretty much anything beyond basic survival. I am paying it all off, bit by bit, but it will take a long time. At last though, I have a happy personal and work life.
I was diagnosed with Obstructive Sleep Apnoea in 2003, after suffering since my early 20's. It now means I have to wear a mask attached to a pump at nights to keep me breathing, but my quality of life has improved drastically.
I didn't plan any of the above but it's how you deal with it all that matters. Plans can seem like good things, but quite often, life is so random and surprising that the best laid plans can soon be thrown into turmoil and be a complete waste of time.
Targets are more restrictive than people realise and we should really take each day at a time and carry some hopes and aspirations, but ultimately be prepared to deal with the unexpected.
Rob
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