I would like to put my thoughts in!
AOL is a known bastard working with Firewall/routers. AOL do not pass any encryptred traffic across thier network above 3DES either so it can be a real pain in the arse for some SSL conversations. So, first suggestion, ditch AOL and get one of the top three ADSL providers in the UK (as documented in recent UK survey) BT (1), Virgin (2), Demon (3).
Secondly, if you are having Wireless issues it could be because another router is within your vicinity using the same frequency as you are. To be honest any router (Vigor, Cisco, Dlink) will be more powerful than your netgear! Although Wireless shows 12 possible channels (13 in USA) there are really only 3 available. I would suggest trying a different channel (1, 7 or 12) and see if that fixes it. If it does then someon near you probably has wireless, if this is the case you should hide your SSID on the router (put it in manually on the client) and also use WEP encryption otherwise someone could jump on your broadband and use your bandwidth.
Thirdly if you think someone else does have Wireless near you...change the damn password on your router from the default.
That is all.