There were 4 of us too. I'm the oldest, born mid 1940s then my sister and two brothers all born within 6 years - poor Mum! My youngest brother died years ago from cancer and now my middle brother has died approx 18 months ago (this is going the wrong way? surely it should have been me, being the oldest, to "go" first?) Anyway, my middle brother lived all his life at our "ancestral" home with my Mum - which was nice as he was there 24/7 for her when she became old, frail and unwell - we owe a lot to him for that (Dad died many years ago in ill health). However, now both my brother and Mum are gone, we discovered they were the opposite of yours, in that they hoarded massive amounts of "stuff". Trying to decide what to keep and what to ditch has been a massive task for me and my sister, there's some historic family stuff going back to the 1700s and we're still at it! Most poignant for us is the more recent stuff like informal family snapshots which we either have never seen or now remember from when we were much younger. A lot of bitter sweet moments too like when bits of furniture and family possessions came up for sale at the auction that we remember from our childhood. Thank goodness that, at last, "Confirmation" (Probate to you in England) has now been granted and we can now tidy up all the loose ends. I think we'll be finished with it all in about 6 monthses which will be such a relief as the stress has been enormous. Having regular contact with the grandchildren, taking them swimming etc, has been a great thing and kept us on an even keel through it all. I dread to think what the lawyers bill (two lawyers involved) is going to be, I bet they're rubbing their hands together at the prospect!