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Quite an ignorant uneducated opinion.
I have had Anxiety and depression my whole life so i think i know a thing or two about it LOL.Do a bit of research into Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, basically all i have described is just that which is widely used. I just explained it in a way that is easy to comprehend and will make a difference quicker than the courses that the government run. I just did it very quickly as i was in a hurry.
No Job after friday and still have to pay for my car
No Job after friday and still have to pay for my car
This is by no means having a go at you but i just dont understand why everybody ran out and got huge loans beyond their means to buy a car just because they could. It is this reason why i cant get a mortgage now and house prices have gone through the roof in recent years.
Yes i borrowed a bit of money for my car but from a source that i know wouldnt do me over if i lost my pretty safe job. And i dint go borrow like 10G+ for my first car when i am 17.
I really feel for you mate times are hard and it's $hit for everybody but you have made your bed now lye in it. It would be upset for you if you lost your car but at least if you did you would learn not to try and live beyond your means again.
My DHR is that I am uber crapy at DIY but can't afford to get someone else in to do it for me!
My 2nd DHR is no matter how hard I try and play fair and do everything right or by the book, the system / life still turns arround and bites me in the bum and I end up back where I started - sometimes wish I'd fallen off the rails became a complete scum bag and had everything handed to me on a plate! gggrrrrrrr
My 2nd DHR is no matter how hard I try and play fair and do everything right or by the book, the system / life still turns arround and bites me in the bum and I end up back where I started - sometimes wish I'd fallen off the rails became a complete scum bag and had everything handed to me on a plate! gggrrrrrrr
Yeah but if you were a bum could you live the life you have now on £50 a week. It may not be a lot more but 90% of the time it is better to work.
Yeah but does that include the money taken out for rent etc.
Do a bit of research into Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, basically all i have described is just that which is widely used. I just explained it in a way that is easy to comprehend and will make a difference quicker than the courses that the government run. I just did it very quickly as i was in a hurry.
It doesnt work for everyone, in fact less than half the doctor told my gf. The only way she got better was to get a job, have a baby and cold turkey on the Citalopram. The therapy did not work for her at all, and she was always one step ahead of her therapists questions. I see what you were trying to say though volxstu.
Anyway.. the thread. My Depressing Horiffic Realisation is that im stuck in a job where everyone bar one person i work with stabs me in the back and takes credit for things Ive done. The company is going down the pan and I doubt it will last the year and gven my actual qualifications im going to struggle to earn the same money elsewhere.
and I really wish I had gone to uni
I agree that things like Counseling agree pointless the the Anxious, as you said we are always one step ahead and have more ability to manipulate people more than the person asking the questions. Psyche's are just a bunch of over paid wizards sleeves and do absolutely nothing.
But has your GF actually done CBT and if so when. I initially thought that it was a load of codswollop, but over time i realised that i was subconsciously rationalising things and it was helping me get my life back together. Admittedly i have gone a little too far and now can rationalise absolutely evreything in life which carries problems of its own.
On topic i have the exact opposite work prob's to you. I get a relatively low wage for what i do and i know i could probably get paid more somewhere else and could earn a shed load if i were to go on my own. But the experience that am getting where i am is going to stand me good stead for the future and i am a lot less likely to be stuck just doing one thing like Drawing Train instructions day in day out. But i am in danger of geting too secure and end up being stuck working for people my whole life. I would imagine that the max i would get doing it that way is about £70,000 PA
But has your GF actually done CBT and if so when. I initially thought that it was a load of codswollop, but over time i realised that i was subconsciously rationalising things and it was helping me get my life back together. Admittedly i have gone a little too far and now can rationalise absolutely evreything in life which carries problems of its own.
On topic i have the exact opposite work prob's to you. I get a relatively low wage for what i do and i know i could probably get paid more somewhere else and could earn a shed load if i were to go on my own. But the experience that am getting where i am is going to stand me good stead for the future and i am a lot less likely to be stuck just doing one thing like Drawing Train instructions day in day out. But i am in danger of geting too secure and end up being stuck working for people my whole life. I would imagine that the max i would get doing it that way is about £70,000 PA
My Depressing horrific realisation....
When my life is static and predictable i'm unhappy, when its busy and chaotic i'm stressed but happier and have fun overcoming problems that aren't anything to do with my personal life. I think I used to travel and get involved in things that where best described as dicey (I've averaged 18k a year in my cars despite my job being 6 miles away) to avoid my personal issues but at the moment I do not have the opportunity due to other commitments so i'm stuck with the first option at home facing things I can't deal with at this moment in time because I have other things on. Its not a good place to be but i'm going to have to deal with it until 28th may when my last hand in date is then who knows....ummmm I wanna hit europe or northern scotland or just somewhere I havent been and doesn't have baggage attached.
Fun times
When my life is static and predictable i'm unhappy, when its busy and chaotic i'm stressed but happier and have fun overcoming problems that aren't anything to do with my personal life. I think I used to travel and get involved in things that where best described as dicey (I've averaged 18k a year in my cars despite my job being 6 miles away) to avoid my personal issues but at the moment I do not have the opportunity due to other commitments so i'm stuck with the first option at home facing things I can't deal with at this moment in time because I have other things on. Its not a good place to be but i'm going to have to deal with it until 28th may when my last hand in date is then who knows....ummmm I wanna hit europe or northern scotland or just somewhere I havent been and doesn't have baggage attached.
Fun times
Hmmm
Taking a gap year for a job wasn't the best idea
I desperatly need a job now :| but many vaccancies are in pubs
I never seem to want to goto sleep at 3, Which is annoying, but controlable
Theres only one panel on my car worth look at, Shiney, has no dents
Taking a gap year for a job wasn't the best idea
I desperatly need a job now :| but many vaccancies are in pubs
I never seem to want to goto sleep at 3, Which is annoying, but controlable
Theres only one panel on my car worth look at, Shiney, has no dents
my mega depressing horiffic realisations...
biggest one by a mile is that.. im 20 years old i left school 4 years ago now and ive done nothing with my life... i don't have many freinds... im still driving a 1.2 punto 2 years on... and its slower than my first punto
i have an annoying addiction with mobile phones... i impulse buy too much.. i hate my job... must i really go on...
biggest one by a mile is that.. im 20 years old i left school 4 years ago now and ive done nothing with my life... i don't have many freinds... im still driving a 1.2 punto 2 years on... and its slower than my first punto
i have an annoying addiction with mobile phones... i impulse buy too much.. i hate my job... must i really go on...
got some stats to back this one up aswell have we mr know it all
my mega depressing horiffic realisations...
biggest one by a mile is that.. im 20 years old i left school 4 years ago now and ive done nothing with my life... i don't have many freinds... im still driving a 1.2 punto 2 years on... and its slower than my first punto
i have an annoying addiction with mobile phones... i impulse buy too much.. i hate my job... must i really go on...
If you look below you have hit the nail on the head. Have you read my other posts. I suffer/ed with depression badly but managed reduce the harm that an illness that this causes.
I know have a good job and clearly a much better life than the know it all cnuts who spend all of their time telling me that im wrong. I have been told that my different ways are wrong my whole life by many, many people throughout the years. Do you know how satisfying it is when i see those people who doubted me like my old bosses at Mc'Donalds who are still assistant managers at Mc Donalds, or when i see the teachers at my old school (who told me i would amount to nothing) in the street and i say hi there Sir/ Miss and they ask in a sarcastic way what are you up to. I can reply "I am a qualified Graphics designer working for one of the most comprehensive agencies in the south east and just paid a major part in the Re-branding of Airfix, i take my own contracts to the agency and i am working on a deal with Corgi"
All this with no debt, i have pulled through a drug addiction due to my problems with my mental health.
So if a 20yo little no it all who's life is clearly a mess wants to tell me to back up with figures my personal methods of helping people to realise that depression doesnt need to affect your life that much. Then i will show you the same 2 fingers that i have given the rest of the world.
Oh and i love my job
Mine would have to be that Im very unlikely to achieve anything at all over the next year or so at work, even though a small investment (2 million?) could easily make 100's of millions in profit very quickly. The company just isnt geared to rewarding the right thinngs for its current business model, but seems to think it is.
At least I should still have a job though.
At least I should still have a job though.
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I don't try hard enough.
I met a guy yesterday that trained with me a few years ago at mac. He had the same starting point as me. Now he's director of studies at the Jemma Kidd school of makeup and lectured me on techniques I practiced foundation matching on his receeding hairline ffs.
I met a guy yesterday that trained with me a few years ago at mac. He had the same starting point as me. Now he's director of studies at the Jemma Kidd school of makeup and lectured me on techniques
I practiced foundation matching on his receeding hairline ffs. - Status
