Hello,
OK, we're getting somewhere. I turned the bt on my phone off while indoors. I took wifeys phone out to the car and turned on the ignition. 2 mins later it connected. On the Ford it was 5 secs max. We perhaps hadn't been waiting long enough is one of the problems we had. So, the car is turned off and indoors we go. I turn on my bt (I'm used to leaving it on all the time ... as is my wife on her i-Toy), go to the car while her phone is in range, turn on the ignition and it will pair to hers. She then has to turn off her bt and then it will pair to mine. Deffo a bit of a faff. Unless anybody out there knows better. Tks for your help so far.
Phil