I too am an old fart starting out with 60's and 70's era machinery etc., Progressing onwards into the *electronic"era and nowadays, computers, dam computers, Dam bloody computers on 4 ( even 2, and many more ) wheels......
Sounds as if you need to "read up" on Vehicle stuff since the 90's, it even s bit earlier.
Your mechanical understanding will stand you in good stead, as well as electrical. Remember the early alternaters, give a modern *kid* a 3 bobbin Dynamo control box ( rb340 ? ) And he will not have a clue ( just like you with obd, ECU interrogation etc... ) But I am sure he is capable of finding out, just like you.
Remember the ds and id's, I bet you ran away from them, I ran towards them......
So bite the bullet, get some basic modern diagnostics ( they only "suggest" the problem, believe me ! ) , Read some books ( remember them ? ) , Read vehicle specific books ( not Haynes ) and embrace modern computer control, or run away from it and pay......thru the nose .
No malice, no umbrage, it's up to you.
At least "gen up".......
Do more research......act like a sponge......