right you geeks,where is all my tech support
right still trying to make this work
ram/GFX cardworks fine in the other mobo
different sockets so i cant swap CPU's over.
anyway i gave the dimm slots a scrape with a blade in the hope there was some crap in there.
as an experiment ive dropped the ram speed from 400 to 300 and something in the bios.
booted it up and went to run memtest again
this time it told me my OS wouldnt allow it to test all the ram (2x 1gb just now)
and told me to run 2 copies of mem test at the same time with 810mb per prog
this is running now with no errors so far
edit

kay so the ram was running at 333,any other number between that an 400 caused problems
so i went over 400 and tried 452
then i clocked the CPU from 200 to 220 with ram at 440 and got a crash,also tried 494
dropped the cpu to 210 and ram to 472,so far stable
so whats the deal here?