LAst wenesday everything was perfect and i thought life was fine, i woke up on thursday and had a single disturbing thought (and i dont know why as i was happy with my fiancee and our life until then and i keep telling myself it isnt true). Since then i have really been beting myself up over thinking it, and it is causing me to become depressed, and is affecting my relationship with my fiancee (i think you blokes can guess what i thought). Since then it plays on my mind all the time, i want to sleep all the time, i have no motivation to do anything and no energy. I have also made a pact with myself that if these thoughts dont go away in 2 weeks that im going to top myself or something of the sort. Its driving me mad.

So can you guys help? Can depression bring psychological effects?

I cant bear to upset my fiancee much more as its not fair on her....

Cheers guys

Anthony

Ok I can't guess what you thought. I've a few ideas but they might not come across as being sincere.

Have you been and spoke to your GP about this?

I have no idea what you thought? Is it either about you/her having an affair or you want anal sex with her? She might now object.

Chin up mate, might be the time of year
i'm ****ing down atm but never let topping yourself come into the equation.

I got no motivation, everything seems like a barrier to me. but it'll work out in the end

gex18 said:

LAst wenesday everything was perfect and i thought life was fine, i woke up on thursday and had a single disturbing thought (and i dont know why as i was happy with my fiancee and our life until then and i keep telling myself it isnt true). Since then i have really been beting myself up over thinking it, and it is causing me to become depressed, and is affecting my relationship with my fiancee (i think you blokes can guess what i thought). Since then it plays on my mind all the time, i want to sleep all the time, i have no motivation to do anything and no energy. I have also made a pact with myself that if these thoughts dont go away in 2 weeks that im going to top myself or something of the sort. Its driving me mad.

So can you guys help? Can depression bring psychological effects?

I cant bear to upset my fiancee much more as its not fair on her....

Cheers guys

Anthony

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Also common in S.A.D which can also leave u on an all time low. ( i`d know!)

It maybe be driving you mad/hurting but topping yourself will do nothing other than upset the ppl that care for you.

I`d go see your Gp, that can advise you, not just meds but maybe put you on to someone you can talk to ( sometimes best to speak to ppl you dont know)

Some indication of what this single thought was would help, as I'm at a loss too. Was it thinking of being unfaithful to your fiance? If it was, I think EVERYONE would think that at some point in a relationship so that is quite normal.

Depression is kind of psychological, and it can trigger all kinds of negative effects. It can also cause physical symptoms too, and if it lasts more than two weeks then you really must get to a GP for a more expert opinion.

Also, has this all become apparent since the clocks went back? There is a condition known as S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder) and this causes similar symptoms to those that you are experiencing right now. Kind of a coincidence that your symptoms occured just as the nights started getting darker :chin:

Either way, if it is really getting you down please go and see your GP. Don't suffer in silence whatever you do, because if you get help then there will be light at the end of the tunnel for you.

Good luck and hope you get this sorted

un treated depression can lead to psychoses , so go see doctor, don't be afraid to take tablets, make sure you get a follow up appointment for 14 days after as you will know by then if the tablets have worked, if they don't work don't worry as there are different ones for different people.
don't ignore it and hope it will go away, and don't smoke weed or drink alcohol

dave said:

don't smoke weed or drink alcohol

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****. I do drink fairly regularly, but was actually considering turining to weed to get some relief!

I woke up thursday and had a stupid single thought and thought i was gay. Its so stupid as i have been with my fiancee almost 6 years and love her to bits, but that thought keeps playing on my mind, and it just wont go away, im now paranoid of looking at blokes as i think when i look at a bloke for more than 1 second that i must be gay i mean how stupid does it sound? The longer this goes on i worry myself into thinking i am. I have spoken to my fiancee about this and she is obviously upset about it but is feeling helpless!

Thanks for all the kind replies and pms guys!

Cheers

Anthony

gex18 said:

I woke up thursday and had a stupid single thought and thought i was gay.

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Steve said:

you want anal sex with her?

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oh the serendipity.....

you dont suddenly wake up gay, gay people on trisher always say they knew they was gay from a very early age. you just having gay thoughts, aparently pretty common, could still be brought on by depreshion, so still get some pills

Jai said:

serendipity.....

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Errr...what does that mean

dave said:

you dont suddenly wake up gay, gay people on trisher always say they knew they was gay from a very early age. you just having gay thoughts, aparently pretty common

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Hello Dave

what so depressing about being gay? look at the scissor sisters they seem to be having a lot of fun, one of my female friends is moving into beaver cottage with her girlfriend (oh that took a day to get my side sewn back together). so you're feeling experimental, or thinking you're experimental?

Serendipity: to make discoveries, by accident and sagacity, of things not in quest of.

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Errr...what does that mean

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serendipity

Online dictionaries are amazing things

And Gex18, most if not all males will at some point in time have homo-erotic thoughts, even if they're not actually gay themselves. This is supposedly quite normal and nothing to worry about according to most psychologists.

As Dave says, you don't just wake up 'gay'. Most gay people I know say they knew from way back into their childhood and adolesence what their sexual orientation was.

What it does sound is that this single thought has made you paranoid to the point of obsessing about it all the time, which is not good. This might signify something else such as depression, which could be worsening the whole scenario for you.

Go see your GP asap, and I really hope you get on top of this mate. And credit to you for revealing your distress on a public forum, it takes a brave man to do that :worship:

gex you are perfectly normal, i look at other birds all the time i even make comments to my boyfriend like "look at the fun bags on that!" doesn't mean i'm gay. just means that i see the attractiveness of both sexes.
it would be a good idea to speak to your doctor about depression. when i'm feeling down i always feel its a good idea (esspecially at this time of year) to get a few holiday brochures and decide to book a week away some where it gives you something to look farward to.

if you feel you really may be gay or just curious it maybe a good idea to speak to these guys i believe they are local to you.

http://www.gayderbyshire.co.uk/

AppleSei said:

Hello Dave

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shut up you its just what i learn from Trisha

now stop pming me asking for sexual favours

AppleSei said:

I really like being a boy and listening to the Scissor Sisters whilst driving in my silver Seicento. All the boys on the street look and wave at me!

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:devil:

Loads of guys I know have had similar thoughts- it is pretty common.
The fact that you are getting so bothered by it doesn't suggest that it has any more relevance to you or you are more likely to be gay- but maybe that you are more susceptible to depression, (and people made a good point earlier about S.A.D.) when people are depressed they often fixate on issues as a focus for their depression. For some it is health, they can become convinced they have some undiagnosed illness, for others it is social things like sexuality, isolation etc.
Don't go into anything too fast, medication for depression is a long-term thing and doesn't start work for weeks at a minimum. Topping yourself helps no-one, don't even continue to entertain the thought. Even if you decide you might be gay it's not the end of the world.
Resolving something like this is often about talking (which you are doing, and the anonymity of a place like this can help) and addressing it, which you also seem to be doing. I had a friend who worried about the same thing- and he found thinking about the practicalities of gay sex helped, a gay friend of ours described it quite graphically and after that he realised he couldn't think of a man in a sexual way, and I couldn't think of my gay mate in the same way!
Hope you are ok, take it easy.