Well, i have a bump stop on its way thanks to the post above

Most important thing to sort on the car first is the music, as the wife was wanting to play the iphone through the stereo..
Some good threads on here giving the info, so.. a blaupunkt blue aux cable was purchased.
removed the stereo to gain access to the rear and these plugs

Removed the 3 pins from the bought lead

And fitted them into the yellow connector, earth in the middle. L/R either side

Works a treat! Routed the lead down and out by the cup holders, though this was a better place than the glovebox. As you cant reach the glovebox safely when on your own in the car.