Sounds like a fuel problem, could well be injectors playing up have you checked your fuel filter, find it strange how when you give it the beans it clears and runs fine then comes back, I don't know many electrical problems that would do that, that to me sounds like fuel system some where.
Coil went on mine - never put the injector light on, you say AA chappie was pulling plug leads do you know which cylinder showed up as this 'coil problem'
as this may be the key to your probelm, it may be a duff injector or even a duff plug, which you have forced to fire again by thrashing the car once clear it stays clear whilst you are driving hard but re fouls again when you slow down, so I supose in a way it could a be a coil, but I would go for more a lead, as the coils are in two banks so in theory 2 cylinders should play up unless that is what the AA chappie spotted, my coil was causing missfire under load, yours seems to be the other way around, I would be looking at plugs and injectors, also find and check fuel filter, as for the red key!!!! load of crap, I had my red key never used it ever! replaced one battery, car was off road with battery disconect for 1 week for head gasket, and 2 days for clutch replacement, all that happens is you lose
radio code, and car goes into self learning mode when you drive it, in other words it relearns how to operate efficiantly to your driving style. uses quite a bit of juice for a while... think it is around 100 miles but red key.. no handy to have but in 6 years of ownership.......................never used it!