I use a copper 'gasket' on my car mainly to compensate for any small imperfections between the cylinders and the head and yes, I do re-torque the head from time to time mainly out of habit than anything else. I know a couple of VW owners who run with no gaskets and they check head torques now and again, so I guess it's not a bad idea.
Traditionally valve clearances (and head torque) should be checked and set with the engine dead cold and new valves do take time to bed in on the seats. Rechecking clearances is also good practice, with intervals dictated by your level of paranoia and acuity of hearing.
When I rebuilt my engine I wasn't sure how 'tappety' it should be as I had nothing to compare it with, but over time I've noticed that it has quietened down considerably.
Chris