What are you towing?
Assuming that you're pulling a trailer or a bike rack, the 7 pin is more than adequate. BUT, get the "7 way relay" kit - you'll need this to interface the car's electrics with the towing one. This will fool the CANBUS and bulb failure stuff that there is nothing wrong, and you won't burn out your light wiring (notably the brake lights). These will generally have a buzzer for your (legally required) indicator bulb failure.
You can get "Dedicated" electric kits that will interface properly, mute any standard reverse sensors and may even alter your engine map, but they generally cost into 3 figures, which I'm guessing you don't want!
If you're pulling a caravan, then you'll need an extra 7 pin socket, as well as relays for caravan battery charging, fridge etc.
The "new" 13 pin plug/socket arrangements are better IMHO as they seal better, are less prone to corrosion and tend to give better connections.
I you're just doing trailer, then 7 pin is fine, just remember to check the lights due to plug corrosion. If you have LED trailer lights, then the indicator buzzer may not work.
IMHO Westfalia bars are the best you can get. Fitted quite a few in my time.
Mike