Hi Soapy1960,
Welcome to the forum. I have to assume that the headlamps are already selected when when they come on without turning the key.
The common factor would seem to be the ignition switch, which may have developed a fault. Alternatively there may be a wiring fault due to cables chafing and wearing through the insulation.
If as is most likely the vehicle has a diesel engine, the engine would fail to stop if the stop solenoid on the injection pump is sticking open, or is receiving a supply when it should not (ignition switch again).
As you already seem to be overwhelmed by basic MH electrics, perhaps you need the services of an autoelectrician.
For explanation, I would expect to find two additional relays near the starter battery, along with two or three additional fuses. The relays would be for the fridge when running on 12V, and the split charge relay. Two fuses of the would be 15A or 20A rating for these functions.