The general consensus on Dualogic diagnosis by FIAT dealerships appears to fit into the "you need a new actuator" camp, as the only official spare part offered seems to be the complete actuator (don't have direct personal knowledge of this, so I could be wrong). Also, as I said, it's the part swap that requires least effort, training or tools.
But, if you think about it, the Dualogic ECU has to work out your intentions from a limited set of sensors, and then decide whether to change up, down, go to Neutral, do nothing, etc.
If the data it gets is bad, it makes "bad" choices. If it gets conflicting information it is programmed to choose the mechanically safest option. Which may be to go to Neutral. Doesn't mean it is broken, just doing the best it can with what inputs it has been given.
As an example, a while ago my own Dualogic Panda had a bout of jerky downward gearchanges when in Auto. Manual was fine.
Cause was actually related to the brake lights not working, in turn caused by a bad connection at the brake pedal switch.
No errors stored.
I realised the problem when reversing into a parking space - noticed that there was no glare from the brake lights.
Cleaned connector and all was well again.
I suspect that some people would have blamed the actuator or the ECU, and suggested replacement. (Would never have happened as it's a 2004 Panda with a value less than the parts & labour would cost.)
So, yes. Get a second opinion. Maybe even a third, too.