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NO DONT DO IT 16 12.90%
GET IT OVER AN DONE WITH WHILST YOUR YOUNG 25 20.16%
ENJOY PRACTICEING FOR A WHILE LOL 44 35.48%
WHY AM I EVEN READING THIS ???:-S 39 31.45%
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Old 11-12-2008   #31
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im the middle child aswell lol got 2 sisters,1 of 28 and 1 of 22.only person i counted on was ma dad lol

as for kids,i aint got any,not in a rush for 1 either..i cant afford myself at the mo so i defo wudnt be able to afford a baby.BUT the gf has 1 of previous relationship,now h'es 7 and she 25 and she not thought about having another 1 the whole time she was with her ex (7 years)..With us 3 tho,(me.gf an her boy)times are hard at mo so i dnt think we'll be having a baby between us untill were either financily secure OR when were both ready..were both still young and wana enjoy sum life..
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I've just thought of something that no-one has picked up on.

You could wait to have kids but many couples wait and then find out that they cant have more children for what ever reasons.

If you both seriously want to have more children then i'd seriously think about it now. If there are doubts then I wouldnt have one just for the sake of it.

Pre cancerous cells run all down the female side of my mums family. My nans had a hysterectomy, out of the three girls in the next generation two of them have also had to have hysterectomys in their early 30's. It makes me wonder if its likely to go through my generation too which makes me think at 20 I really havent got that much longer left if I want kids.
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Old 12-12-2008   #33
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Im 47, wife is 42. Married her when she was 16 (her family said it wouldnt last, 2 fingers to them) 28 years next March. Had our 1st child in '85, 2nd in '86, short break (got a telly) 3rd '89, 4th '90 and last in '91. It was great having them grow up together but hard work. My advise, have them close together then enjoy the free time when they are grown up.
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I think you should have them close together. Then you won't be out of the way of nappies, bottles, etc. and when they're close age-wise they're good company for each other.

With the first being 18 months now, number one will be well on their feet by the time number two comes along and *will enjoy helping mummy with the baby.

*That is, so long as number one doesn't try to give away number two, like the way my niece tried to give away my nephew... Lol
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25... she'll have the tick-tock soon.

Put it this way... When they're hitting their rebellious years do you want to be fit - or old? I know people having kids at all ages. Some near 40 with 4 year olds. When the kids are 15 they'll be heading towards 60.

i know exactly what you're saying, but personally i'd prefer to be a parent aged 35-60 rather than 20-45.

actually i'm fibbing i dont want kids at all i'd rather have the time and money to spend on myself. sadly my other half wants kids and i want sex so its bound to happen eventually.
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Hi, its not a decision depending upon poll, make it as ur inner conscience.
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I am soooooooooooooooooooooooo broody I love babies i've always said i want a baby when im 21/22

I think maybe a bit early though wait until your other baby is 3 or something, Twins run in my dads side of family and he's a twin so im more than likely get two the first time

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speakingof twins..im a twin,had a twin sis but she didnt make it out of the hospital...and apparantly it runs in my mums side as there are twins in her family,(i have twin couisins) so all in all ive been told i could have twins when it comes to me having babies...But we'll see
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i know exactly what you're saying, but personally i'd prefer to be a parent aged 35-60 rather than 20-45.

actually i'm fibbing i dont want kids at all i'd rather have the time and money to spend on myself. sadly my other half wants kids and i want sex so its bound to happen eventually.
i wouldnt have wanted one before i was in my 30's
i can handle it better now than i ever could in my 20's
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imo i hate seeing families too young as usually the mother isnt ready but same with families to old.

my parents are both in their 50s and literally we have nowt in common.

tbh its upto you but imo as you already have a kid (ignoring the recession) now is a good a time as any kids with too larger age gap are more hassle form what ive seen.
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if thats what you both want then go for it, im 20 in feb im single... not by choice any more.... i just cba look i don't ever want kids im afraid...
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i am 24 me fellas 22 we have 2 kids lil girl 2 3 in march and lil boy of 1 it not that hard but not having nay more just yet haha its easyer with 2 they play togther do things together so you can do your own thing(for 2 mins lol) we have been together for nearly 5 years but we still have are own time so not always with the kids he goes pub nites out i go danceing on the weekend. have more doesnt mean the end of everthing
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I can't really speak on the parent front seen as I have no kiddies... but from the kids point of view - i'm 21 and my bro is nearly 31 - and the age gap is far too big. We grew up hating each other because he wouldn't play with my toys/he didn't want me around when his pals were round at the house. We dont have the same dads, so it wasnt like the parents had a choice to wait so long, it's just the way it happened. But, from my childhood, i'd have my kids close together rather than an age gap. Bear in mind though - everyone is different! I don't think 4/5 years is a massive age gap.

The fact you have enough doubts to post it on FF implies you need to speak to your mrs, and tell her all the thoughts you have. She might be happy to wait, say even for a year - and that way you can determine finances etc given the current recession.

I'm sure it would also be nice to have your own social life when your 40 rather than running about after wee ones.

No disrespect to my mum because we get on really well, but I think having a younger mum helps a lot of teenage girls from going off the rails in comparison to having a mum old enough to be your gran!

Hope you sort it out.
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If you really want more kids have them whilst you are young, trust me.

Me and the mrs have one daughter, she is my step daughter, wife is 10yrs older than me, step daughter is now 23, but treat her as my own.

We planned on having more kids and did plenty of practicing. We realised something was not right cause despite all the practicing she was not getting pregnant. Tried all sorts, including forking out lots of money for IVF, which worked a treat, but a few weeks later she suffered a miscarriage was well gutted. We talked about having more IVF but are now put off by what the wife went through, and the drugs she has to take really mess around with your body.

There is no real reason either as to why we cannot make babies, as we both had lots of tests, it's just another one of life's mysteries.

So, if were you mate get baby making as soon as finances are in order, and before it's too late, enjoy.
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So, if were you mate get baby making as soon as finances are in order, and before it's too late, enjoy.
Sod the finances. They never recover!

At least that what I was led to believe.

As for double garage, kit car etc., thats do'able. Well, I still think so. Reality may prove otherwise unless I lock myself in the shed, but I wouldnt want to spend too much time away from angel, beth and elliott
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