Babies?????????

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Babies?????????

BABIES??????????

  • NO DONT DO IT

    Votes: 16 12.9%
  • GET IT OVER AN DONE WITH WHILST YOUR YOUNG

    Votes: 25 20.2%
  • ENJOY PRACTICEING FOR A WHILE LOL

    Votes: 44 35.5%
  • WHY AM I EVEN READING THIS ???:-S

    Votes: 39 31.5%

  • Total voters
    124
i am 24 me fellas 22 we have 2 kids lil girl 2 3 in march and lil boy of 1 it not that hard but not having nay more just yet haha its easyer with 2 they play togther do things together so you can do your own thing(for 2 mins lol) we have been together for nearly 5 years but we still have are own time so not always with the kids he goes pub nites out i go danceing on the weekend. have more doesnt mean the end of everthing
 
I can't really speak on the parent front seen as I have no kiddies... but from the kids point of view - i'm 21 and my bro is nearly 31 - and the age gap is far too big. We grew up hating each other because he wouldn't play with my toys/he didn't want me around when his pals were round at the house. We dont have the same dads, so it wasnt like the parents had a choice to wait so long, it's just the way it happened. But, from my childhood, i'd have my kids close together rather than an age gap. Bear in mind though - everyone is different! I don't think 4/5 years is a massive age gap.

The fact you have enough doubts to post it on FF implies you need to speak to your mrs, and tell her all the thoughts you have. She might be happy to wait, say even for a year - and that way you can determine finances etc given the current recession.

I'm sure it would also be nice to have your own social life when your 40 rather than running about after wee ones.

No disrespect to my mum because we get on really well, but I think having a younger mum helps a lot of teenage girls from going off the rails in comparison to having a mum old enough to be your gran!

Hope you sort it out. :)
 
If you really want more kids have them whilst you are young, trust me.

Me and the mrs have one daughter, she is my step daughter, wife is 10yrs older than me, step daughter is now 23, but treat her as my own.

We planned on having more kids and did plenty of practicing. We realised something was not right cause despite all the practicing she was not getting pregnant. Tried all sorts, including forking out lots of money for IVF, which worked a treat, but a few weeks later she suffered a miscarriage :( was well gutted. We talked about having more IVF but are now put off by what the wife went through, and the drugs she has to take really mess around with your body.

There is no real reason either as to why we cannot make babies, as we both had lots of tests, it's just another one of life's mysteries.

So, if were you mate get baby making as soon as finances are in order, and before it's too late, enjoy.
 
So, if were you mate get baby making as soon as finances are in order, and before it's too late, enjoy.

Sod the finances. They never recover!

At least that what I was led to believe.

As for double garage, kit car etc., thats do'able. Well, I still think so. Reality may prove otherwise unless I lock myself in the shed, but I wouldnt want to spend too much time away from angel, beth and elliott
 
Im 36 , iv got 4 kids 2 of each , boys age-21+19(yes 21+19 and yes i was young),girls age-6+9 , none of them we're really planned-id love to have more kids and so would Mrs Joker(38) -but it would be un-fair on her as we're still having fun with hip displacia and the 'wonderfull' post natal depression(a daily joy) , however - as its been said its something that you and your Mrs should discuss at great length, i understand your reservations regarding the finances/recession but as all parents know -you manage and your both still young-just have fun practising .
Joker
 
I guess you can be any age to have difficulties.

I've got a blood disorder that I didn't know i'd got until i'd had two miscarriages and a blood clot on my lung ... I only found out after the two miscarriages.

It means that I have to take blood thinning injections every day to ensure that both myself and the baby stay safe during the pregnancy.

So I was both young and older, dont think age is an issue.

If it wasnt for the fact I hate needles, i'd certainly have another at 40.
 
maybe i sound young, stupid, and maybe selfish... but i really want to know what the novelty is with having kids?

i dont fancy waking up at all hours for bottle feeding
i dont fancy changing nappies
i dont fancy putting up with the crying, screaming, tantrums, noise etc
as they get older dont see the novelty of the arguments, mood swings etc
dont fancy being drained all the time of money, and then taken for a ride christmas time
dont fancy having to fork out loads of money for a baby sitter and having absolutely no time to myself
then he/she will probably give me endless ****e through their teens (i believe in kharma and know what i was like when i was a bit younger lol) and either get pregnant or get a girl pregnant and back to square 1

and in a newspaper it said it costs over 100k to raise a kid from 0-18, i could buy a nice semi detached house with a garage for that i reckon?

had this argument with so many people (mainly girls) and all i get is 'aaw but babies are cute'... yes maybe for the first 20 minutes or so then the novelty wears off and your tied to an 18-24 year contract(n)

*awaits a grilling*:eek:
 
maybe i sound young, stupid, and maybe selfish... but i really want to know what the novelty is with having kids?

i dont fancy waking up at all hours for bottle feeding
i dont fancy changing nappies
i dont fancy putting up with the crying, screaming, tantrums, noise etc
as they get older dont see the novelty of the arguments, mood swings etc
dont fancy being drained all the time of money, and then taken for a ride christmas time
dont fancy having to fork out loads of money for a baby sitter and having absolutely no time to myself
then he/she will probably give me endless ****e through their teens (i believe in kharma and know what i was like when i was a bit younger lol) and either get pregnant or get a girl pregnant and back to square 1

and in a newspaper it said it costs over 100k to raise a kid from 0-18, i could buy a nice semi detached house with a garage for that i reckon?

had this argument with so many people (mainly girls) and all i get is 'aaw but babies are cute'... yes maybe for the first 20 minutes or so then the novelty wears off and your tied to an 18-24 year contract(n)

*awaits a grilling*:eek:

yeah they're cute and feckin hard work, even moreso when they get older, but it makes it all worthwhile when they smile at you for the first time, then tell you that they love you... you know its all worthwhile then :eek:

best time is when they asleep tho ;)

my mum would certainly disagree with your comment re 18-24 year contract..... as apparently kids get bigger problems and troubles the older they get plus they give them grandkids :devil:
 
Your deff right Angel , we've just discovered the joys,ear ache, expence of our 1st grandson, my parents both 62 said it gave them a new lease of life when theirs came along , i have to agree it s great having him around-REALLY keeps us on ours toes, i love being called 'grandad' too , Mrs Jokers still not sure if she feels old or not, kids-great fun-just hard work, but SO rewarding.
Joker
 
The mrs is pesturing me for another baby.I dont think its a good time being in a recession to try for another baby we both have good jobs the mrs works 3 days a week me full time we have a big 4 bedroom end tericed house(on a morage) so plenty of room for another we have a daughter whos 18mtns old allready. Im 24 n shes 21 do u think were to young for a big family????????:confused:

Sometimes money, other kids in the family & age doesn't come into it,parental instinct does though.
 
maybe i sound young, stupid, and maybe selfish... but i really want to know what the novelty is with having kids?

i dont fancy waking up at all hours for bottle feeding
i dont fancy changing nappies
i dont fancy putting up with the crying, screaming, tantrums, noise etc
as they get older dont see the novelty of the arguments, mood swings etc
dont fancy being drained all the time of money, and then taken for a ride christmas time
dont fancy having to fork out loads of money for a baby sitter and having absolutely no time to myself
then he/she will probably give me endless ****e through their teens (i believe in kharma and know what i was like when i was a bit younger lol) and either get pregnant or get a girl pregnant and back to square 1

and in a newspaper it said it costs over 100k to raise a kid from 0-18, i could buy a nice semi detached house with a garage for that i reckon?

had this argument with so many people (mainly girls) and all i get is 'aaw but babies are cute'... yes maybe for the first 20 minutes or so then the novelty wears off and your tied to an 18-24 year contract(n)

*awaits a grilling*:eek:

many men feel that way, but few women.

ever wondered why you feel the need to shag everything that crosses your path, or why the first thing you think when you see a woman is whether or not you'd have sex with her?

its our nature. life only has one purpose, to survive. survival depends on reproduction. that is why our most powerful driving forces are 100% to do with reproduction. men want to donate sperm and support/protect women, women want to have kids.

like many men i dont want kids but i do want sex. i keep telling myself that i can ignore most other natural urges (murder, having sex with other women, stealing etc.) so i can surely ignore the urge to deliver sperm as well. the world's population is so huge than no single person needs to have kids to ensure the continuatioin of the species, in fact we are at the point where not having kids will give the species as a whole a better chance of survival.

however recent events in human behaviour cant change millions of years of natural instinct, so i am doomed to spend most of my time thinking about sex, and my partner is doomed to spend most of her time thinking about children.

fingers crossed i'm infertile, that would be the greatest blessing nature can give a man.
 
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you might as well have them near to one another, otherwise you'll get used to the peace and then have to go through it all again.

Plus you dont want a massive gap between thier ages as they will have more in common if a similar age, althouigh my brother is 7 years older than me but when I was younger it was like a generation gap - I was still in junior school and he was out getting a job.:eek:.
 
maybe i sound young, stupid, and maybe selfish... but i really want to know what the novelty is with having kids?

i dont fancy waking up at all hours for bottle feeding
i dont fancy changing nappies
i dont fancy putting up with the crying, screaming, tantrums, noise etc
as they get older dont see the novelty of the arguments, mood swings etc
dont fancy being drained all the time of money, and then taken for a ride christmas time
dont fancy having to fork out loads of money for a baby sitter and having absolutely no time to myself
then he/she will probably give me endless ****e through their teens (i believe in kharma and know what i was like when i was a bit younger lol) and either get pregnant or get a girl pregnant and back to square 1

and in a newspaper it said it costs over 100k to raise a kid from 0-18, i could buy a nice semi detached house with a garage for that i reckon?

had this argument with so many people (mainly girls) and all i get is 'aaw but babies are cute'... yes maybe for the first 20 minutes or so then the novelty wears off and your tied to an 18-24 year contract(n)

*awaits a grilling*:eek:

Imagine your parents had this attitude my friend, you would not be with us today. You will understand one day when you got your own 'WHAT THE FUSS' is about. And I am a guy :)

This is what keeps me going, I wake up every morning to this little bundle of joy, my beautiful little Angel.
Here is Seren everybody, say hello....

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Say hello to everyone Seren..... :wave:
 
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maybe i sound young, stupid, and maybe selfish... but i really want to know what the novelty is with having kids?

i dont fancy waking up at all hours for bottle feeding
i dont fancy changing nappies
i dont fancy putting up with the crying, screaming, tantrums, noise etc
as they get older dont see the novelty of the arguments, mood swings etc
dont fancy being drained all the time of money, and then taken for a ride christmas time
dont fancy having to fork out loads of money for a baby sitter and having absolutely no time to myself
then he/she will probably give me endless ****e through their teens (i believe in kharma and know what i was like when i was a bit younger lol) and either get pregnant or get a girl pregnant and back to square 1

and in a newspaper it said it costs over 100k to raise a kid from 0-18, i could buy a nice semi detached house with a garage for that i reckon?

had this argument with so many people (mainly girls) and all i get is 'aaw but babies are cute'... yes maybe for the first 20 minutes or so then the novelty wears off and your tied to an 18-24 year contract(n)

*awaits a grilling*:eek:

:yeahthat:

+ there's too many people in the world and the earth cant take all of us squeezing out babies. plus **** loads of kids needing homes....:confused:

a baby woulod ruin my figure, my bank account, my social life, my house... i got my dogs first and they'd end up being left a lot more as i'd be expected to sort a baby out before my dogs even though my dogs have been around longer than a sprog.

Imagine your parents had this attitude my friend, you would not be with us today. You will understand one day when you got your own 'WHAT THE FUSS' is about. And I am a guy :)

This is what keeps me going, I wake up every morning to this little bundle of joy, my beautiful little Angel.

aw she is cute... i personally still prefer dogs, horses and motorbikes though... it triggers no maternal genes... i cant hear a "body clock" ticking and im 26 and in a loving stable relationship :shrug:
 
Imagine your parents had this attitude my friend, you would not be with us today. You will understand one day when you got your own 'WHAT THE FUSS' is about. And I am a guy :)

This is what keeps me going, I wake up every morning to this little bundle of joy, my beautiful little Angel.
Here is Seren everybody, say hello....

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Say hello to everyone Seren..... :wave:

Hellooooooo how are youuuu
 
Did they ever have that other baby?!

And for my own penny's worth - I don't think I want kids. Mostly because I'm paranoid that I'd break one, which would be an issue as I can't really swap it for a new one; I have no patience with kids; they cost lots; they are too much like hard work; they smell etc.

That said, I think he should have had another as he already had one anyway. Pointless giving these opinions on an oldertt thread I know! But I wanted to know whether they are now expecting again!
 
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