Are you Jealous?

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Are you Jealous?

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Yesterday I was chatting with my friends at work and they were telling me how much it drives them mad knowing their boyfriends have girls numbers in the their phone.

I said it doesnt bother me that my boyfriend has girls numbers in his phone, he is entitled to be friends with whoever he wants.

Some of them were telling me they even delete numbers out of their boyfriends phone, even have routed around his private things? I have never ever dont that.

When I told my mates I dont get jealous, I dont route about my boyfriends stuff, they think that I am not bothered about my relationship and dont care if he cheats :confused:

I trust him, I have no reason to get jealous, I dont care if he is friends with girls. They made me feel really abnormal cos out of my group of friends i was the only one to not be bothered about my boyfriend having female friends.

Does anyone on here get jealous if their partner has friends of the opposite sex on his/her phone.

Be honest :p
 
most of my gf's friend are male, at uni she's always watching a film with the lads but it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

I must admit though I did look through my ex gf's phone because i had reason to believe she was cheating and I was right. I'm not proud of the fact I did that but the reasons I had were good enough for me I just wanted to find out for sure.
 
You seem to have rather paranoid friends there. I trust my partner implicitly and so I don't care who she has on her phone. She is mine and I am hers end of discussion.
 
June knows I have a certain ladies phone number on my mobile ;) and she has probably phone numbers of men on her mobile[work related] and whats more whenever I go out and bump into my next door neighbour[the one with that thing sticking up in his garden]he always turn the conversation around to her but I trust her explicitly she has plenty of reasons to look elsewhere with me some times as I am a right moody git but she loves me and I love her and I trust her totally 37 years married this year and never regretted one day of it Mwaaaa Mwaaaaa my darling xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[can I havw a coupe now]
 
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the world doesnt work like that, if it did then every male would only have male mates, and every female would only have female mates, i know that if you trust the person you are with then why should it bother you, plus half of the female names in my phone are relatives anyway, and thoe other half are mates, most of which i only speak to once every blue moon lol,
 
I have lots of male friends due to all these car forums so any potential partner would have to understand that. Similarly I know they will have female friends. What I would struggle to understand is people who stay close to their exes, especially when I was at the beginning of a relationship. I do tend to get a bit possessive/ jealous in that respect, but then it's different when you've been with someone for a long time and know and trust them :( I've never been tempted to go through a bloke's stuff, I respect their privacy and would always ask if I needed to get something from a bag, coat pocket etc.
 
Im not the jealous type, been with our lass for 2 years and 3 month now and never doubted her loyalty nor has she mine, i guess when you find someone you want to be with forever you would have no reason to cheat on them, and that give me trust in her as it does her in me (y)
 
the way i see it is at the end of the day its more than likely you both will have come from slighly different walks of life at least, so you will have your own seperate friends from prior to your meeting, if that is then an issue with either party it needs to be resolved.

i understand where Hlelz is coming from re the ex... been caught out there and thats the only time i have ever looked at a gf's fone.. and shock horror, everything i suspected plus more was there...
 
Jealousy is based on insecurity. In other words, jealous people are insecure because often the relationship isn't solid enough in the first place.

Jealousy sucks, and Sammiboo has the right attitude. You meet a girl/ guy for the first time, but you also need to accept that she had a life before she met you AND she already has a group of friends. I never had a problem with that, and whether it was male of female is neither here nor there. You either trust them or you don't. Jealousy doesn't achieve anything other than broken relationships.

Why get jealous if your girl has loads of male friends/ male telephone numbers in her phone? It doesn't mean she is going to shag all of them. Just as much in that if she has loads of female friends that doesn't mean she's a closet lesbian and is secretly having lesbo flings behind your back :rolleyes:

Actually, I suspect most blokes would be secretly turned on by their girlfriend indulging in a bit of lesbo action every now and then :devil:
 
If I found any blokes numbers in my wife's phone I'd get a gun take 'em all out.

....And back in the real world, if someone is gonna cheat they're gonna do it whether you check their phone or not. Life really is too short.

Sammi, I reckon your mates are jealous of your maturity, self-confidence and ability to trust. Good on ya girl.
 
I just think if you cant trust them then why be with them. If your trust is lacking just because they know and speak to people of the opposite sex, then there is something definately wrong.

A lad I used to be really close with at work and everyone at work thought there was something going on with us. Just because we spent our breaks together and stuff we were obviously an item :rolleyes:

The only time H got jealous was when we went to the pictures and saw a film he wanted to watch with me and i said no cos it looked crap - then i watched it with this lad cos it was orange wednesday so was two for one, i couldnt say no :eek: :p But that was more to do with i wouldnt see it with him but i went to see it with someone else, no matter who it was.

And another point on how much we trust eachother, last year at stanford hall we booked a hotel to stay the night before. H couldnt come, so booked a room for myself....... in the wrong hotel :eek: :eek: Ended up sharing a room with one of the lads from the forum, otherwise i would have had to stay miles away from everyone :( H didnt mind when i told him, he thought it was funny that i had been so stupid to tell everyone to book the hotel and i booked the wrong one :p

My point is, we have never done anything to make eachother jealous or wary, so i dont understand why people meake issues of things that arent there?!
 
H probably has server ip addresses in his mobile! Just joking LOL

If you suspect your partner to be cheating then you've obviously let yourself and standards slip so time to get back to the routines of old walks etc
Liam
 
My (married) mate was being a bit naughty and was getting fruity with a girl, His wife gets really paranoid about girl's numbers on his phone, so she saved her number as my name (matt) Every now and then his wife would discover texts on his phones like "Oooh I can't wait till I get you all to myself so I can give you a nice long Blow job" and he was just saying it was me :eek:
 
pinin__prestatyn said:
My (married) mate was being a bit naughty and was getting fruity with a girl, His wife gets really paranoid about girl's numbers on his phone, so she saved her number as my name (matt) Every now and then his wife would discover texts on his phones like "Oooh I can't wait till I get you all to myself so I can give you a nice long Blow job" and he was just saying it was me :eek:

He might be batting for the 'other' team and is actually getting bj's from a guy called Matt! :p
 
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