Irrelevant numbers relate to posting comments on what you would and wouldn’t need for a 16.5kw connection, when if you’d bothered to look it up, you’d have seen its a 3 phase connection and so your maths was pointless and not in anyway applicable.
You can have a 16kw charger in your home, you can easily pay to have the additional work done to install a 3 phase charger in your home. Every house is plugged into the three phase system, they just come off a different phase for different house in the street. It’s not one three phase supply for 3 houses, Chances are that most of the houses on one side of the street will be on the same phase. It’s the connection going into the house that is rated at 100A due to the diameter of the conductors going into the building. The power grid is capable of supplying far more and there is wiring in every area corner of the country for 3 phase wiring the problem comes the further you are away from the other phases and the work that is needed to connect you.
I have plenty of ‘direct experience’ of working with these things. I used to build and work on power meters for industrial companies.
If you want to build a factory or company that requires loads of machines, and the local area can only support domestic levels of plugged in equipment, then of course a company is going to have to pay towards updating the local substation.
My brother has 3 phase in his unit (doesn’t use it though) my father in law has 3 phase in his unit and has a few machines plugged into this.
My father has a 16amp connection, single phase in his garage for his specialist welding plant.
Anything is possible if you are willing to pay your money.
As far as the network is concerned, having everyone charging their cars on 3phase is a dream, keeps the phases equal, no correction needed, no stress on the network if everyone on one side of the street plugs in while everyone on the other side goes out. If one phase goes down everyone is affected so it doesn’t.
This is why the network is opening up access to the high KVA lines for charging points and stations like the super chargers.
I’d expect over time everyone with a home charger will be moved over to a 3 phase system.