Shauncrowyn, don’t get extra load confused with run flats. The extra load tyres are just designed to take slightly more weight than a standard tyre of that size. 84 = 500kg/wheel, 88 = 560kg/wheel. An extra load tyre will go flat just like any other. Many standard tyres in other sizes have load indexes well above 88.
As for the where to put your new tyres question. I have heard the theory about putting them on the back before and understand the reasoning for it, however, I’d much rather the new rubber on the front for three reasons. First modern cars are designed to naturally understeer and not to react violently to throttle lift off, you’d have one hell of a job losing the back end of a GP and since we are discussing tyres for a sporting here it has ESP so dropping the back end is even less likely than it would otherwise be. Secondly, the front wheels of a typical front wheel drive car do up to 85% of the braking in an emergency situation thanks to longitudinal weight transfer and front bias static weight distribution. The third reason is when you hit standing water at high speed you need lots of tread on the front end to cut through the water; an aqua planning rear is more stable in straight line running.