Not quite true! My engine always reaches the "normal" temperature, it is the type/style of driving that affects the DPF more than anything else. You are correct that the engine will regenerate even on tickover however you cannot choose when the ECU will decide to begin the regeneration cycle and not many people will want to leave their engines running in a car park if the "DPF filter clogged" light comes on just as they arrive for work or have to catch a train.
In an ideal world I would like to see a visible indicator on the dash when the car is regenerating, a readout either in the menu system or in the speedo of the DPF status and the option to push a button to over-ride the ECU and start a regeneration manually.
I have twice driven 50 mile plus trips only to have the engine start to regenerate just as I am approaching my destination. If I had been able to choose to start the process manually I would have let the engine warm up and as soon as I hit an open stretch of road "hit the button" knowing that the conditions were ideal.
The most annoying aspect to me is that the diesel engine is capable of fantastic economy if driven correctly but the gains made from the "eco" style of driving are more than offset by the additional regeneration cycles performed due to the fact that this style of driving will clog the filter more quickly.
Regeneration takes just a couple of minutes, even at a standstill. You don't need to leave the car ticking over in a public car park, just wait a minute or two.
Personally, I see no need for a light to indicate regeneration - the tone of the engine deepens, power drops off a little and the revs rise at tickover. It's very obvious.
Finally, I recently took a late night motorway journey, and averaged over 72mpg. I think that answers the OP's original question very clearly!