It sounds to me that first and foremost your clutch is dragging, making it tricky to slip between gears and this can be very hard on the synchros so you need to get that sorted first and soon.
The correct oil is actually a flat 90 grade but and 80w90 is just as good for most purposes. The Redline oil (MTL or MT90) works so brilliantly well that it doesn't make much odds which you use - you can even use their shockproof gear oil which is about a 120 grade (technically it is a grease not an oil), it will work just as well, especially if you are putting more torque through the box than it was intended for. There is a reason why it is so highly regarded, especially in motorsport - it provides a tangible difference and improvement to stock oil grades.
The metallic noise (I'm guessing a slight ringing) is usually down to insufficient oil level and has more to do with noise damping than anything else.
If it sounds like metal being chewed apart then it probably is exactly that and it will be worth dropping the box and opening it up. If in doubt drain the gearbox down and check for a metallic slurry coming out - if it does then you need to drop the box and get it sorted (or replaced), if not then it is probably just insufficient oil.
The usual cause for the slurry appearing is the use of EP oils in the box - these can destroy the internals in an amazingly rapid time but equally a failed synchromesh or gear can do the same once the metal fragments have been chewed up and turned the internals into shrapnel. The Redline oils are EP rated but do not contain the same aggressive chemistry that normally appears in EP gear oils.
If the motor factor sold you an EP oil for an X1/9 gearbox he needs to be taken to task. The slightly later Tipo type gearbox (fitted in the later Uno Turbos and pretty much everything afterwards) does use an EP oil but anything earlier than that is strictly non-EP.